How Can You Tell the Difference Between Addiction to Relationships or Addiction to the Person?
Question by megangorex: How can you tell the difference between addiction to relationships or addiction to the person?
I’m doing a project for school about addiction to relationships, and I’m going through a really hard break up right now. I almost think I might have an addiction to relationships, but I can’t tell if I’m addicted to the relationship or the person I was in one with. How can you tell?
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Answer by dsayless
I think addiction to relationships refers to people who need to be in a relationship at all times, regardless of who it is with–they just can’t bear to be alone. Whereas addiction to a particular person is when a person is so hung up on one specific partner that they cannot see the world through their own eyes anymore, but filter everything through what they believe their partner’s like & dislikes to be.
Answer by patricia m
Bless your heart,
I know this hurts like hell! I have dealt with this issue a lot. I believe that I have an addiction to relationships in general, (be it a boyfriend or a best friend or a therapist, etc), as well as getting an addiction to one person.
Also, however, this might not be an addiction, but just a broken heart and grief over losing someone you have loved.
I personally have done this repetitively, looking for the one person who will more or less “heal my soul”; I have done it with my husband (gave up on that one), a best friend, a therapist, and most recently my 12 step sponsor.
One book that has helped me a lot is “Letters from Women Who Love Too Much” (“a closer look at relationship addiction and recovery”) by Robin Norwood. This book helped me a LOT more than the original book “women who love too much”.
Know that you are a worthwhile person, this pain will eventually pass, and you will find joy and love again. Best wishes for your happiness and health.
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