I Dont Know What to Do About My Husbands Online Addiction.?
Question by Angela: I dont know what to do about my husbands online addiction.?
My husband and I married this past year. I am also 17 weeks pregnant with twins. I always knew he was a gamer. It caused many fights over the last year with us. He assured me if I quit smoking back in April he would quit gaming. I quit smoking and he did stop…so I thought. He tried to hide it from me for a while by sneaking out of bed and playing all night then sleeping all day. He then got super comfortable and started playing anytime he wanted to. When we found out I was preggo with twins, I thought he would stop and spend some more time with me. I WAS WRONG! We are now arguing almost daily over this. He works from 2p-10p and usually wakes up around 9-10. If we dont have doctors appointments, hes gaming. When he does spend time with me before he has to go to work any time in our next argument its held over my head as if he’s doing me a favor by spending time with me. Im at my wits end. I dont know what to do. This morning we had an ultrasound. He had other plans. When I told him I was l going to my appointment because it was important that I go, he said ” I wish it were that important to me” When I brought that up in our argument this afternoon he said I took it wrong.
Please someone help me. I literally have my bags packed and dont know if I should stay or go.
I have asked him repeatability to stop. I told him it makes me feel unimportant and unwanted. I told him I need his help around the house because I just cant do it right now on my own. My doctors stopped me from working already because of all the complications I’ve had with this pregnancy. I also told him I feel like I need to mother him over this situation. How am I supposed to feel like a wife when he treats me like a mother. He told told me I need to get over it and grow up.
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Answer by Emma
Have you told him that it upsets you that he finds gaming more important? I think you should let him know that he needs to get off his butt and work on your relationship, or you’re gone. If he’s stupid enough to choose gaming over his marriage and future children, then I hardly think he’s ready to raise a family.
Answer by Neon304
First off, smoking will kill you gaming wont. (unless its some freak 1 in a million accident) So good thing you quit. Seriously, kudos to you for that.
Now to fix your problem, I highly recommend you both watching the game addiction episodes of Extra Credits. It’s long, but I’m sure both of you can get something out of it.
http://penny-arcade.com/patv/episode/game-addiction-pt.1
http://penny-arcade.com/patv/episode/game-addiction-pt.2
Good luck 🙂
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